Anger can be a controversial and misunderstood emotion and can impact one’s life fulfillment. Some individuals struggle significantly to identify and express anger, often indiscriminately redirecting angry feelings caused by others onto themselves (i.e. this person spoke to me this way because I’m a worthless person). While others have significant difficulty controlling their own behavior when the emotion of anger is triggered, resulting in actions that can impact their lives and relationships (bullying, threatening, violence).
Anger itself is an important emotion
Anger itself is an important emotion that feeds us information about something happening in the environment that is threatening or makes up unhappy in some way. When feelings of anger arise, one should reflect on the situation, note the elements of the situation that are causing unhappiness or feelings of threat, then determine how best to express this emotion and resolve the potential conflict given the circumstance.
Feel —> think —> Act
Resolving complex issues with anger can be very difficult to do effectively on one’s own; the assistance of a licensed therapist can be invaluable.